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5 Ways To Teach Resilience At Home

Resilience is a word that is used a lot in self-help books, especially for children. The definition is short but being resilient isn’t so easy. I know many adults including myself at times have issues being resilient. If it is difficult for adults imagine how children feel.

Childhood is a period in which a person’s character, personality, and habits are developed. It is during this period that the basic attitudes and reactions towards the world are determined for life. This makes education during childhood all-important for building mental resilience in children.

This article will explore what resilience is, why it is important, and 5 ways to teach resilience at home.

What Is Resilience?

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There are many slightly different definitions out there for resilience but basically, resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. Adversity aka challenging situations. Another great definition is “Resilience is a person’s ability to face a difficult situation and bounce back. That doesn’t mean to say that resilient people won’t face challenges. Instead, building resilience trains a person to view adversity as obstacles that they can overcome.”  It’s not something that you are born with and it can be learnt.

Why Should We Teach Resilience?

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Teaching children about resilience is not just for the sake of them being able to stop stress, but it also teaches them how to better communicate and take care of themselves.

Beyond just being an emotional skill, resilience is an important life skill that everyone needs to have in order to thrive. Resilience has been linked to a number of positive outcomes for children, such as better physical health, higher self-confidence, and better grades in school.

Teaching children resilience doesn't just make them stronger and more resilient individuals, it also teaches them how to be kind and empathetic to themselves and others who might be struggling as well. Furthermore, these skills can help them better communicate what they need and want without the use of violence or aggression. Resilience is an essential life skill that every child should have access to.

5 Ways To Teach Resilience At Home

5 Ways to teach resilience at home

1. Strengths And Talents

Allow your child to identify with their strengths and talents. It is important to help children identify their strengths and talents, so they can find a sense of belonging, feel competent and confident, and have a sense of purpose. Below is a worksheet to get you started.

2. Opportunities To Shine

Provide opportunities for child to shine. Children need to be exposed to situations which are challenging but can succeed. This could be as simple as cooking toast or pancakes. It could also be drawing or going on a long walk. This will help them develop self-efficacy and a mastery mindset. Display that they can overcome challenging situations.

3. Encourage Social Connection

Encouraging social connection with different people. We all learn from other people, either ways we would like to be or not. Children need to feel connected to others in order to build resilience because humans are social beings who thrive when they have relationships with others. This could be a sporting activity or a craft group. I highly suggest scouts, we have been members for a couple of years now and the many different activities they do and different people they meet have definitely made a difference to my kids and how it has changed the way they think about the world and community.

4. Developing Empathy

Developing empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand how another person may be feeling. One of the best ways to develop resilience is by teaching empathy. Teaching empathy and kindness will help children understand other people’s emotions, learn how to react appropriately in social situations, and care about others. My son struggled with this one, he just didn’t really know how to react especially when someone got hurt. I know some adults struggle with this. “Empathy helps us to communicate our ideas in a way that makes sense to others, and it helps us understand others when they communicate with us. It is one of the foundational building blocks of great social interaction and, quite obviously, powerful stuff.” Improveyoursocialskills.com

5. Handle Disappointment

Learning how to handle disappointment. As parents, our first impulse is often to try to fix problems for our children. But there’s no way to fix our current reality. What you can do is listen to and acknowledge children’s frustration and disappointment, says Carey Werley, LCSW, a clinical social worker at the Child Mind Institute.

  • Talk about what your child is feeling if they come home disappointed from a play date or game.
  • Allow them to vent by giving them time alone if they need it.
  • Help them identify what they did wrong, then try not to blame them.
  • Encourage your child with other things like telling them about other children who might be experiencing something similar

Conclusion

The importance of teaching children resilience cannot be overstated. For children to develop resilience, they need a supportive environment that encourages them to take risks and learn from their mistakes. This environment also needs to be one that provides them with opportunities for growth and development. And it needs to be one where they feel safe enough to express their emotions in healthy ways. Resilience is like a muscle that needs to be practiced and used or else it will go away. Thankfully our schools are already teaching resilience and they have a lot of activities developed that we can use at home to provide our children with extra support. Below is a FREE downloadable for your child to identify their strengths and show just how awesome they are which is one of the first steps to being resilient. We also have affirmation cards, mindfulness colouring, and gratitude journals to help them along the way.
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Introducing the What Is My Strengths Worksheet!  This fun and easy worksheet is the first step to teaching your child resilience at home. With this worksheet, your child can circle what strengths help them. The worksheet can also be placed on a wall as a reminder of how special they are.

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