Why It’s So Hard to Accept Yourself and How to Overcome it

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Do you accept yourself for who you are?

Do you expect yourself to be richer? More beautiful? More popular?

For a large part of my life, I expected myself to be different, that I should be a certain way. But in later years I discovered life doesn’t need to be this way and that I was putting an extreme amount of pressure on myself.

It's easier to talk about what we prefer to look like rather than feel content about our current looks. We tend to talk about how life would be easier if only we lost ten pounds or had the perfect skin or different hair.

Self-acceptance is the ability to accept yourself and your life as it is, without judgment or criticism. It involves being able to accept all of our flaws and mistakes, as well as our strengths and successes. This can be a challenging process, especially when we are faced with an inner critic that constantly tells us we are not good enough. Self-acceptance is key to developing healthy self-esteem and self-love, which can help us to overcome this negative inner voice and lead a more fulfilling life.


So Why Is It Hard to Accept Ourselves?

We find it hard to accept ourselves because others shape how we see ourselves. As soon as we come into the world, our caregivers strongly influence who we become. They shape us, or at least our perception of ourselves, from the moment we're born.

The parents we interact with and the friends we make along the way significantly influence our lives and how we feel about ourselves. Sometimes we don't even realise that others are affecting us.

We won't always agree with what others think we are, but the opinions that others have of us matter to us. They can cause us to think negatively about ourselves.

When we go to school, others judge our worth on academic performance rather than on our passion or personality. As a result, we might develop a negative view of ourselves.

Then we have social media, which constantly bombards us with ads and posts saying what we should think, what we should be feeling and how we should be looking.

This process can make us feel inferior or depressed, especially when others seem more successful or famous.

It's important to remember that others have the right to form their own opinions of us. But that does not mean their views are accurate.

    So, What Can You Do About It? Try these tips: 

    1. See Yourself as a Work-In-Progress

    We are all growing and learning, and that's okay. Don't let it keep you from going forward if you make a mistake. Realising that you're a work-in-progress rather than a perfect being will give you the motivation you need to keep trying, no matter what. One thing you can do is edit your choice of words to reflect this. Changing your language this way lets you feel that there's a possibility to change. For example, you are not there 'yet', you haven't achieved your goal 'yet'. The word 'yet' is an extremely powerful word.

      2. Be Compassionate with Yourself

      As humans, we are flawed. It's essential to know our flaws so that we don't beat ourselves up over them. If you need help accepting yourself, look at yourself through someone else's eyes. Talk to yourself as if you were talking to a friend. Take a pen and paper and write down how you intend to help yourself. These things can help you focus on your positive qualities.

        3. Talk To Friends

        Talk to your friends. Connecting with other people who will lift you up and support your growth is essential for any successful journey. Having supportive relationships can help us to stay motivated, inspired, and accountable. It can also help us to learn from the experiences of others and gain valuable insights into our own lives.

        Having a network of people who genuinely care about our success and growth can provide us with emotional support in times of need. We can share ideas, brainstorm solutions, or just be there for each other during difficult times. These connections are invaluable when it comes to personal development and achieving our goals.

        4. Self-Care Is Essential

        Self-care is essential for our overall well-being, yet it often gets overlooked in our daily lives. Many of us are so busy with work and family obligations that we forget to take time for ourselves. This can lead to physical and emotional exhaustion, which can have a negative impact on our health and relationships.

        It is important to make time for self-care activities that honor your needs and desires. Mindfulness practices such as meditation, yoga, journaling, and breathing exercises can help you reconnect with yourself and find inner peace. These activities can also help you become more aware of your emotions and how they affect your life. Taking the time to focus on yourself will help you become more resilient in times of stress or difficulty.

        5. Develop Healthy Habits

        Developing healthy habits is an important step to take if you want to increase your confidence. With the right habits in place, you can become more confident in yourself and your abilities. Some of these habits include setting realistic goals, exercising regularly, eating nutritious food, getting enough sleep, and engaging in positive self-talk.

        All of these activities will help you feel better about yourself and give you the confidence boost that you need. By developing healthy habits that help increase your confidence, you can become a more successful person both personally and professionally.


        As I have gotten older I started to think 'stuff that' I am who I am and if someone doesn’t like it then that is their issue. Self-acceptance is an important part of living a happy and fulfilled life. It can be difficult to achieve, but it is possible with the right mindset and strategies.

        We don't always notice how others influence us. It's too easy to forget the power that others can have over our lives if we let them. So, make it a point to be compassionate with yourself, see yourself as a work-in-progress, and encourage yourself to be positive. Soon, you’ll notice that you have a much higher regard for yourself and you can kick butt at life!

        I hope you found this post helpful, if so please share it with a loved one. Please check out my free printables page with heaps of different positive and motivational resources to choose from.

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